Moving On…

There's that constant tug that we have and carry into our everyday lives. We judge, compare, think, write, imagine, and dream. But all of those things are things that are constantly different to what we consider our "norm." The norm of our everyday lives that we seek. We're always changing without ever truly realizing. Changing our hair, changing our clothes, changing our makeup, changing our bodies, changing our shoes, hell it even goes down to just changing our knickers everyday. However, sometimes we're not focusing on the right thing to change. But I must say and put this out there, the last part about changing our knickers, is for hygiene, so please change that often; and Thank you. Sorry for the tangent, but sometimes it needs to be said. And as the title states, Moving on… Let's move on. 

It's possibly one of the hardest things that someone can do. Acquiring a new habit is easy, on contrary to changing a habit. We all become so accustomed to the habit that it naturally just becomes a second nature. Whether we like it or not, that habit is our nature. The nature that will and eventually define us. For the old sake of it, I will compare it to training your dog, or better yet, when you meet someone new and start dating. The excitement of meeting and dating someone new, you can be whoever and whatever you want to be. But you'll never truly be able to drift that far off from reality, unless you plan on never meeting or running into that person ever again. In that case, let your mind run wild and fulfill your wildest dreams and be whoever you want for that night. We all need an escape and being different is always refreshing. But that refreshing feeling can stay constant with you for as long as you allow it to. You can always stay fresh, but it's only if you want it. How badly do you want it? Dig deep and rationalize your past. See your mistakes for what they were and accept them. Don't make excuses for your mistakes because that will never lead you to your answer for change. We have to step outsides of ourselves and look in. Relish in the happiness and continue to seek it. Take the old adage, "If it isn't broke, don't fix it," but if it is broke find the broken part and change it; or all together chuck the broken scrapes, start all over again and make something great and stronger than before. The power of change will always and only rely within us. It will always be really hard closing chapters and moving forward when the past will always tug at you. All of us find comfort subconsciously in our pasts, all for the mere fact that its familiar to us. Going back to relationships, haven't you had a friend or significant other that you knew was always bad for you but you stayed anyway? You stayed because you were afraid. You stayed because you didn't know what was out there. You stayed because you found the comfort in knowing what you knew. You stayed because you felt safe. We all have our breaking points. Love is unconditional, but patience has an expiration date. The greatness that we seek is bounded to trials and adversities. Only through those adversities will you ever come to realize your true self. Possibly my favorite quote about strong women is from Eleanor Roosevelt: "A woman is like a tea bag- you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water." Her words are my personal quote of strength. It's what has helped my heart heal from bloodline hurt. Look in to find your true north and follow your internal compass. Take that step of bravery because in the end, your happiness is worth everything in the world. Personal happiness is all too fragile to hand to the one standing next to us. It will always be scary, but the scariest things can also be the smallest softest things. I remember walking around my house when I was younger only to be frightened by the shadow of my favorite blanket. Once we shine the light of our hope in the right direction, nothing will ever seem as scary. If it isn't hard, it isn't worth it. If it isn't worth it, don't waste your time. But your happiness is worth every fiber of your internal being. Move forward to the place of happiness and change your personal nature. The grass doesn't always have to be greener, it just has to be better.